The Perfect Body.
Everyone wants it. If we have the perfect body, it becomes a race to keep it. “I
can't gain that weight back.” If we don't have it we resent it, some to
inconsolable longing. This longing can verge on an obsession to extreme measures
(Al Roker). We strive for those low body fat numbers 8-10% for men and 15-20%
for women.
We count calories or eat low carb for that perfect thin body. We want all traces
of rolls, dimples and squishy, puffy soft skin gone. All signs of gravity
lifted. Our age needs to be defied. We want tone, taught and lean skin and
muscles. We have to look like models and superstars who are paid thousands a day
to look the way they do. Lithe. long, lean, sinewy, wispy even drawn. Pay no
attention that these stars can afford the time and trainers to exercise 4 hours
a day in the pursuit of perfection.
There’s a plethora of diet books out there. We're all studying weight loss. Each
new book brags a new solution. But the diet industry has grown as large and
swollen as the American public’s waistlines. Diets, pills, patches, concoctions,
procedures, prescriptions and remedies to supposedly ‘cure your condition’.
Meanwhile health care costs are spiraling out of control from high cholesterol,
high blood pressure, diabetes and other diseases exacerbated by being
overweight. We can turn away from it in anger, disgust or frustration, to give
up and get fat (1/4 of America). Or continue from one diet to the next fad,
yoyoing into obesity (other 1/4 America). What is going on?
As life gets easier with our technological advances and our economic success we
become more sedentary. Is it the increased need for instant gratification
causing the obesity? Or is it mass produced fast foods with no nutritional value
that are just too easy to acquire? Add to this a sedentary lifestyle.
Speaking of instant gratification, liposuction seems an easy solution. It will
suck the fat away making us look perfectly thin but our blood chemistry doesn't
change. We're still overweight inside, ripe for heart disease and sure to gain
the weight back. The weight then tends to come back in all the wrong places
exacerbating the situation (look out Nicole Smith!)
Self-esteem and body weight are inextricably linked.
I have to say that the recognition I receive (as a woman) for being slim is
real. Generally the thinner I am the more positive the response. My experience
probably reflects others, in that the social recognition for thin is insidious.
Media, society, and culture reinforce these perspectives. Self-esteem and body
weight I conclude are inextricably linked for most. It will take more than a
rebellious few such as Queen Latifa who’s refreshing attitude expresses “Thin
for who? For what? I like my meals! I’m happy and successful! And I like being
full figured!” Her message liberates perfectionist thinking. She’s got curves
and her body fat is probably a healthy 25%.
The pursuit of the perfect body then becomes a self esteem issue. If we want
recognition we can’t eat, drink or be merry! We need to always be in control to
uphold these rigid standards. That’s the rub.
For naturally fun loving, giving and sharing folks who want to enjoy life while
being healthy and productive here's a solution.
Lose control!
Queen Latifa does it by taking off on her motorcycle going from here to who
knows where. Lose yourself in something you love to do and forget the rest.
I call it ‘zoning’ when I lose myself in my writing, exercising, playing with
kids, music, conversation sometimes even in housecleaning (Beware: this 'zoning'
thing is contagious and starts to infiltrate everything you do).
Just lose yourself in the moment, and find the zone within. It builds self
esteem, burns calories and generates bliss at the same time.
What if we all completely forgot about having a perfect body and refocused on
being healthy? We'd lose all the emotional baggage that comes with perfection.
We'd focus instead, on health and feeling good.
We would eat properly and sensibly and exercise. Lots of vegetables, lean
proteins and some whole grains. Nutrient packed foods, which have negative
calories because they’re work for the body to break them down. It's the man made
foods that tempt us and make us eat too much because they just taste so…good?
These foods spoil our taste buds: sugar, processed foods, white flour,
hydrogenated oils.
They take away the pleasure of simpler more complex flavors. Plus these once
nutritious foods are processed into empty fat storing, blood sugar raising
caloric dumping.
Yes, okay sometimes we can indulge with a glass of wine or piece of chocolate.
We can’t always say no. Halloween and the holidays are imminent and we need good
habits to fortify our resolve without being rigid.
Here's a strategy! Eat the healthy foods first. Relish them and get satisfied.
After the meal is when you go for the ‘bad’ or ‘fun’ food if you still need to.
You'll only eat a little, because you're sated.
There are no diet secrets, only common sense.
Of course there is the role of social stigma and the media continuing to rev the
engine of needing to have a perfect body. But we know better now. We may not
look like a super star or model but maybe our natural healthy glow from our
zoning through life in good health will give us the longevity and quality of
life we all desire.
Part of being productive in our daily life is exercise. Our advanced technology
affords us the time to make time for daily exercise. Our bodies need, crave it
and respond to it once the habit is formed. One thorough give it your all
effort, for one hour a day is plenty. Exercise is what keeps you looking,
feeling and being young. Exercise for survival is part of our evolution. Did our
predecessors ever prioritize a perfect body?
So forget about perfection. Now get out there eat healthy, exercise and find
your zone to enjoy life to its fullest.
P.S. Can we have the perfect body? Absolutely! Can you keep it once you've got
it? Definitely! But the only way it will really stay is a lot of rigid control
(saying no) or a lot of losing control by 'zoning' and regular exercise.
Deborah Caruana RN, AAHRFP, NASM, ACE.
www.VitalSignsFitness.com
EMAIL: deb@vitalsignsfitness.com
