One consistent and popular theme concerning the Ego is it is
looked upon as bad and something we have to constantly work to
get rid of. I myself fell into constantly berating the ego and
fighting against it. Doing this unknowingly created an on
going
and increasing problem for myself. The more I fought against
the
ego, the more confused I became, and less confident I felt. If
you have experienced much of the same, let me explain what
happen
that changed all that for me.



Somewhere deep inside I was feeling that something was missing
in what I could do to help myself gain more clarity, confidence
and ultimately live my birth right of health, wealth and
happiness. I called out for help. When I asked I received huge
assistance in the form of being able to look at life and what
was happening in my life more unconditionally. I felt fortune
was smiling on me because I came across an understanding of the
Ego that I have never seen elsewhere. It was through a course
that provided insights and a framework for life, in a very
grounded systemic way that allowed me to make giant strides in
my life and move me forward at a pace that I had never
experienced before because I understood cause and effect,
attraction and countless other principles on a much deeper and
simpler level.



By using this material (mentioned at the end of this article),
I was able to integrate the powerful knowledge this course
provided and actually use my Ego, unconditionally and
responsibly to assist me and empower me to easily meet my
goals.



Let me share briefly upon what this material taught and
awakened
within me as a level of truth I knew was missing yet didn’t
know
where to find it.


1. We Are Actually Supposed To Have An Ego



We are supposed to have an ego. I just didn’t know how to allow
my Ego to serve me instead of distract me. Our Ego is a part of
us just as our heart and soul are a part of us. Yet this is the
only part of us that is described as “something we need to get
rid of.” It is like someone telling us that we need to get rid
of our left arm, or our lungs. Those are the physical parts of
us that we use to function as a body in this dimension, just as
our Ego as a part of our being, allows us to function in this
dimension. We require our Ego to experience life through our
own personality, viewpoint and our own way of being. The Ego
expresses our preference for lemonade over orange juice, or our
preference for vacations in Hawaii over vacations in London.
Our Ego is what makes life interesting for us, our Ego is what
allows us to express our unique gift throughout the world. It is
the one thing that makes us unique unto ourselves.



Is there any wonder why we have all struggled for years and
years attempting to ‘get rid’ of our Ego? Why would we want to
eliminate the very thing that gives us our own unique flavor?



2. What ‘Getting Rid of the Ego’ is Confused With



Getting rid of our Ego is usually confused with bringing our Ego
back into balance to be expressed as the Pure Ego. Our Pure Ego
is the ego that lives as our childlike innocence and wonder of
unconditionally discovering the world that we live in. Take for
example, what happened when we learned how to walk. We were in
our Pure Ego when we learned how to walk. When we realized that
walking was a better way to discover the world around us, we
began our own mission – to learn how to walk. So we crawled and
stumbled and took tentative steps and fell, and got back up
again, and fell again, and did it over and over until we had it
down. Each time we developed a deeper understanding of how we
needed to shift our weight, or where we needed to put our foot,
all through trial and error, but each time we saw the
improvement and each time we added something new to our movement
that improved our balance and stability. We didn’t focus on what
we did that didn’t work, we focused on what we did do that
WORKED. We could not have learned how to walk if we were in our
Altered Ego.



Our Altered Ego is the ego that comes from fear and judgment as
opposed to love. It is when our Ego has become out of balance
with Self and sees life conditionally. What would learning how
to walk be like if we were in our Altered Ego? Most of us would
probably still be sitting and crawling. We would first have gone
through a lot of processing about taking action to learn how to
walk or not….Would it be safe? What would my family think?
What if I fall down? Then we would finally take our first
tentative steps, wobble and then fall down. After thoroughly
chastising ourselves for falling and believing we are not good
enough to walk, or not being sure if we should even attempt it.
But we don’t want to give up too soon because we really do want
to learn how to walk. So we would read several self-help
manuals telling us that we are good enough to walk and we can
do it, and we’re the little engine that could. Those of us that
gathered our courage again, would make another attempt, and fall
again would go through another round of “what is wrong with us
and why can’t we get this walking thing right?” Our
self-criticism would be extremely high, and our belief in
ourselves would plummet. We would begin to fall into the
illusion that we just can’t walk and will never be able to, and
perhaps we just weren’t meant to walk and who do we think we are
even thinking that we have the right to walk in the first place?


We are so focused on judging ourselves that we don’t even
realize all of the things that we did that allowed us to stand
for 5 or 10 seconds. Instead, we focused on all of the things
that caused us to fall down.



If we have enough desire, and our will hasn’t been thoroughly
crushed by now, we may go through another round of self-help
books and therapy to build up our confidence level. For those
of us who stay focused on the end goal, we finally manage to
walk. For those of us who keep ourselves mired in the mindset
of what we did wrong and continue to judge ourselves as not
deserving to be able to walk, we never get up off of the floor,
and we keep ourselves in the illusion that walking isn’t what we
were meant to do.



3. Why Understanding The Pure Ego and Altered Ego Is Important
For Our Personal Development




The difference between learning how to walk on our Altered Ego
vs our Pure Ego is that when we were learning to walk while
being in our Pure Ego, we focused on what we wanted (the ability
to walk), and stayed in the joy of the process (what we did
right, focusing on the progress we were making and having fun
while learning). We still used our Pure Ego, because that is
the part of us that gave us the drive and the yearning to learn
how to walk. That is the part of us that gave us the passion to
persist until we were done, and that is the part of us that
allowed us to experience joy while we were going through our
experience. Consider this… How many toddlers have you seen
screaming in terror, anger, fright, etc. while learning how to
walk? Not many right? Most of the time they have HUGE grins on
their faces that say “Look what I’m doing!” These little tykes
can hardly contain themselves!



When we were learning how to walk while being in our Altered
Ego, we weren’t having much fun. We were making it difficult
for ourselves by over-analyzing everything we were doing and
judging the crap out of ourselves for not getting something
“perfect” in the first attempt. For those of us that managed to
get up off of the ground, we certainly extended the process, and
we certainly were not enjoying the experience. We lost focus of
what we wanted, which was learning how to walk, because we were
so focused on what we were doing wrong and making ourselves
“lesser” because we fell down a couple of times. We can choose
to be in the frame of mind of saying “well that way certainly
didn’t work, but there are all these other ways to experience.”
Or we can be in the frame of mind that says “Boy do I suck! I
can’t do this! I can’t do ANYTHING!” Being in our Altered Ego
completely got in our way of achieving what we wanted….
learning how to walk.



We do require an Ego to be in the joy of living in this world,
however it is OUR choice as to HOW we want to live in this
world. We can use the Ego to support what we want in our lives,
or to hinder what we want in our lives. We can learn how to
incorporate the Ego into our lives through material such as The
Choice Is Mine which teaches us how to be unconditional with
ourselves so we can experience abundance and ease in our lives
more quickly. This lifetime companion allows us to move at our
own pace while we are living our day to day lives.




About the Author:


B. Hopkins, an Internet Business Strategist (http://psiphonconsulting.com), develops revenue generating web strategies for businesses and also writes on various personal development and personal transformation subjects. To ground the strategies that you have received in this article, invest in the 2 volume course The Choice Is Mine at:
http://thechoiceismine.com