The Secret is out, way
out. Those who have been entrenched in feelings of powerlessness are finding
their mojo by applying its principles. Yay to the setting of intentions, the
power of positive thinking, and the wondrous Law of Attraction! Yay to
manifesting a perfect soul mate, the ideal income, and our wildest dreams! Rock
on, minds of mankind!
And while I am glad it has
become so popular, I do have a few further thoughts to add to the conversation.
When it comes to the Law of Attraction, I'm a bit of an outlaw. To me it's a
little piece of the truth, and in the minds of egos wanting to play God, that
can be a little dangerous. I believe that letting people in on the power of
thought without also giving equal emphasis to the Law of Allowing is a bit like
teaching people inhaling without letting them in on an intimate and inseparable
part of the process – exhaling!
To put it simply, the Law
of Attraction is about how to get what you want. The Law of Allowing is about
appreciating what you get; in other words, seeking ye first the Kingdom, or
letting go and letting God. When applied together, these Laws bring balance to
the active and receptive male and female energies within each of us.
It's no secret that
getting what you want doesn't automatically lead to lasting fulfillment. If that
were the case, the bathroom cabinets of the married, rich, and famous would not
be filled with such an abundant supply of expensive anti-depression and
Yet we want what we want.
But what's up with all this wanting? While wanting can be defined as desiring,
it is also synonymous with lacking. "The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want"
means that when we surrender our attachment to a specific outcome and trust in
the benevolence of the universe, we shall not lack. And that is the Law of
When we get rigidly
attached to a desired outcome, however, we are coming from the assumption that
we are not whole beings until we get what we want. And that's an illusion that
life delights in coaxing us to let go of.
Thaddeus Golas, in The
Lazy Man's Guide to Enlightenment, says "There is a good attitude to take
towards any goal: It's nice if it happens, nice if it doesn't." Does that mean
we are to be detached from having passion? No, just detached from craving an
outcome, from thinking there is some tear in the fabric of God's perfection that
needs to be stitched before we can fully enjoy being alive.
I love watching dogs run
after seagulls on the beach. They set their sights on a flock and then are
focused, single-minded, and even quite passionate about running down a bird. At
the same time, they are very fulfilled in the thrill of the chase, having a
tremendous amount of fun just frolicking on the beach. Going home without having
caught a bird doesn't for one moment diminish their love of life.
When we realize that just
being alive is the gift that keeps on giving, we may pursue our own gulls just
as passionately, but far less frantically. We value the process as much as the
intended outcome. We embrace whatever we encounter along the trip with loving
arms open wide enough to be grateful for it all.
When we have tasted the
nectar of a fulfillment that is not dependent on the outside world granting us
our desires, we realize that life is blessing us as much when we don't get what
we want as when we do. In those times we get to practice being friends with
reality, letting go of our adversarial position to what is. A heavy burden is
lifted each time we release the arrogant assumption that we are in possession of
the big picture perspective enough to really know what our highest good is
supposed to look like. We get to more thoroughly chew on the spiritual slice of
humble pie A Course In Miracles invites us to digest: "I don't perceive my own
There's nothing wrong with
having goals and using the Law of Attraction to manifest them. Yet you can
attain the world, only to have your achievements magnify and intensify your
inner turmoil. An ego's basic condition of lack, that nagging sense of 'not
enough-ness,' cannot be overcome by worldly success. When Jesus said his Kingdom
is not of this world, he was speaking for all of us.
Even my mother, a devout,
practicing atheist, will exclaim after the first bite of some fabulous dessert,
"Out of this world!" (It has been said that there are no atheists in foxholes,
and I would venture to add that there aren't any biting into Junior's New York
The Bigger Secret is that
there is a state of being available to us that is not of this world. Echoes of
it visit us ever so briefly; the first few morsels of cheesecake, the first few
mouthfuls of romantic love, and other fleeting moments of satisfaction. For some
people who consistently choose to practice "Seek ye first the Kingdom," that
state sets up shop and sticks around as part of the fabric. It becomes the
foundation of a sense of self rooted in eternity.
That's what I want, to
abide in a love that is not of this world. Perhaps that's what we all want, even
when we are seeking to manifest things of this world.
Have you had enough of a
sense of 'not enough'? Do you want out of the state of wanting that always
leaves us wanting more? Let's remember together: "I am as God created me, and I
am free, whole and complete as I am. I am enough, I have enough, and I do
enough. I wake up from the dream of lack. I am drenched in abundance at all
times. Every sunrise is proof of my infinite wealth, every breath is a miracle,
and all is supremely and eternally well."
When that state of
enough-ness takes root in you and permeates your being, you will most probably
be moved to chase some gulls and have some fun.
Gangway… I'll see you on
"Those who bind themselves
to a joy
Doth thy winged life
But those who kiss the joy
as it flies
Live in eternity's sunrise
About the Author:
Scott Kalechstein lives in
Marin, California and is a modern day troubadour and inspirational speaker. He
travels through the United States, Canada and Europe giving concerts, talks and
workshops, as well as presenting at conferences. Please visit
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