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Every time someone asks us
a question, we have a choice to make, "How much truth shall I express?" "How
much of my True Self should I reveal?"

 

Among our choices are the
"convenient" truth, the "diplomatic" truth, the "socially accepted" truth, or
the "absolute" truth-that is, "the whole truth and nothing but the truth, so
help me God!"

 

Do any of us even know the
absolute truth about any situation in our lives? And can we ourselves handle the
whole truth all at once about any subject? Let alone share that depth with
others?

 

I make a practical choice.
I state to myself this daily intention:

 

"I allow myself to express
as much truth as I am now safe and clear enough to express lovingly and
gracefully."

 

What's the Big Deal?

 

Why is it so important to
tell as much truth as you can in life?

 

There's an awesome power in
personal authenticity and accuracy. When we express ourselves genuinely, we're
choosing freedom and happiness over the prison and pathos of lies. 

 

When we tell the truth, we
bring ourselves into the joy of integrity simply by describing what is so. We
exchange the suffering of lying for the delight of heartful expression. An
honest person is unbound and content by virtue of not being lost in their own
fictions.

 

Living Out Loud

 

Living Out Loud is
communication that is honest, open, direct, complete and transparent. Until we
are honest with who we are, we can never really connect with other people.
Releasing a heavy load of pretense leads to real aliveness and intimacy with
others. When we shed our armor and start telling the truth, we are accepted by
others. And we then have the freedom to create what we want in life according to
our own preferences, rather than imagined obligations and role requirements.

 

More Love

 

Telling more truth more of
the time is a great way to live and a great way to love. We’re not loving
anybody to whom we are lying. Contrary to what your mind might tell you, lies
don't help you attract more love, romance and sex. Truth does!

 

A Lying Lifestyle

 

In a recent survey of
40,000 Americans, 93% admitted to lying “regularly and habitually in the
workplace." And we lie almost as much in our personal lives. By making lying a
lifestyle, we've missed the creative power and fun of simply being our Real
Selves. Lying isn't wrong; it's just very hazardous to our health and happiness.

 

When We Tell the Truth, We:

 

Quit invalidating the
brilliant nature of our unique spirit

Interact with others as the
wise beings we are, instead of the masks we are not

Expose the untruths in the
present that are blocking our health, wealth and happiness

Discover firsthand that
life works best when we express ourselves authentically

Are the same person with
everyone in our lives: our parents, family, friends, lover, boss

Quit the Maintenance
Project

Lying to ourselves and
others by trying to maintain a false picture of our life is the primary source
of most tension and anxiety. The stress of constantly pretending, avoiding being
found out, and trying to maintain inauthentic relationships is an ongoing source
of inner conflict and misery.

 

Popular Fallacies about the
Benefits of Lying:

 

1. The mind often tells us
that we need to lie about something to stay safe. But by being inaccurate about
the facts, we mislead ourselves into perceiving a false reality. And, in the
absence of clarity and accuracy, our life decisions are made from cover-up and
denial, which is anything but safe.

 

2. Our emotions say to us
that the truth is too scary. But the truth leads to relief, release and freedom.
Lying leads to a self-imposed fear of life itself-that is, the actual reality of
any situation.

 

3. The mind convinces us
that lying is easy. In actuality, lies take immense amounts of energy to
maintain-and thus deplete our vitality. And being dishonest is restrictive.
Open, spontaneous, unedited expression is invigorating

 

4. Many people believe that
it works to lie. At first people may buy into your misinformation. But deep down
everyone knows when we're lying to them. Our honest feedback or response is the
greatest gift we can give to another person. People love us when we give up our
pretense. And, remember, our life experiences are uniquely ours. Validation by
others doesn’t make our experience right. Disagreement doesn’t make our
experience wrong.

 

5. A commonly held belief
is that lying is practical. This may appear to be the case in the short
run. However, the truth about any situation eventually comes to the surface.
Then the lie has created a bigger problem than it originally avoided. Lying is
not effective over the long haul of life. When we don’t admit right away what is
real and factual, false assumptions get set in motion that eventually backfire
on us.

 

The Truth is Our Best
Friend

 

Joy and love grow and last
when our daily expression is aligned with our soul purpose and passion. It's
more fun and exciting to be aware and accurate than it is to be numb and in
denial. Once we experience the difference between the aliveness of being present
and the dullness of being unconscious, we realize the choice is a no-brainer, so
to speak!

 

Benefits of Honest
Communication

 

Telling the truth creates:

Improved relationships with
boss, peers and clients at work

Increased sexual pleasure
with your partner

A body and environment that
truly supports us in being ourselves

Rapid healing of the past

A livelihood that expresses
one's genuine self

More effectiveness in
manifesting the future you desire

A lighter, easier life that
is more fulfilling

Truth Begets Energy

When we're in our minds
thinking-and editing what we're saying-we're lost somewhere in the remembered
past or imagined future. We're not here and now where our creative power is.

 

As we show up fully in the
present to handle each moment of life accurately, we emancipate tremendous
energy that comes home to us as our personal power. More energy can flow through
a congruent, aligned life. Each time we align our actions with our Real Self,
the energy is released that was holding the non-harmonious lies in place. As we
deal with each new life encounter with integrity, we naturally undo the patterns
of inaccurate, inappropriate and non-aligned decisions that were made when we
were lying. We can use this liberated creative life force to fund our deepest
dreams.

 

When we tell ourselves the
truth about what truly is-and is not-working in our lives, we can make real and
lasting changes.  Real magic occurs when we deal with what is really so in our
lives, instead of what we wish, think, believe, hope or assert is true. 

 

Being present in our truth
is more effective, helpful, powerful, safe and loving than living unconsciously
in lies. 

 

 

About the Author:

 

Drawing
from the wisdom of native and ancient spiritual traditions, Keith Varnum shares
his 30 years of practical success as an author, personal coach, acupuncturist,
filmmaker, radio host, restaurateur, vision quest guide and international
seminar leader with "The Dream Workshops".  Keith helps people get the love,
money, and health they want with his F-r-e-e Prosperity Ezine, F-r-e-e Abundance
Tape and F-r-e-e Coaching at  
http://www.TheDream.com

 

 

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