Ok I admit it. I have a charmed life. Everything I touch turns to gold. Or platinum. Or Prada.

I’m healthy, happy and successful. My worst nightmare day is a lot of people’s dreams come true.

Now it wasn’t always this way . . .

For more than 30 years, my life sucked. Real bad. I was sick, unhappy, broke and miserable. Everything I touched turned to camel dung. If anyone could snatch defeat from the jaws of victory, that would have been me.

So what changed?

The single most important thing-more important that anything else I have ever learned was this: I came to the belief that I was responsible for everything that happened in my life, both the good, and the unspeakable horrible. Which was a very frightening thought indeed . . .

Because it meant I could not blame my dysfunctional relationships on my partners anymore, I couldn’t blame all my business failures on my sponsor, crooked partners and the economy, and I couldn’t blame my poor health and other tragedies on God, the universe, destiny and circumstance.

And while that was quite a frightening thought at first . . . it became the thought that set me free.

Because if all that was true about those bad things, then logic dictated that it must be true for the good things. Which meant I could manifest being happy, getting rich, becoming successful and attracting quality people into my life!

Do you really get this? Do you realize that you can manifest all the good things and live a life of health, happiness and prosperity?

Coming to this realization was the critical turning point in my life. It was the single, most important, defining breakthrough in my existence on this planet. Because it took me out of the mindset that I was a victim of circumstance, and created a mindset and belief that I could control my own destiny.

Now this thought is radically different from what most people believe. But then again, most people are sick, broke and stupid. They feel victimized by God, the Universe, nature, destiny, luck, circumstance, and a litany of other “outside” factors.

But that discounts the very important reality of the effect our thought-forces and mind elements have upon our circumstances, character, and destiny.

We really do create our own circumstances by the thoughts we give precedence to.

Until your thought is linked with purpose, you won’t achieve any long-term intelligent accomplishment. And until you make this connection, you can’t experience the true prosperity that is your birthright.

Most people’s thoughts are simply reactions to whatever is going on in the world around them. They have these random, aimless thoughts, and drift from one drama to another. They fall easy prey to gossip, petty worries and negativity. They are cogs in the matrix, lurching along with the herd. Daytime TV shows (and most nighttime ones) satiates this habit perfectly.

They have no purpose. Because they think taking care of themselves is selfish, and they think selfishness is bad, they attempt to make everyone else happy. Which of course leaves everyone most decidedly unhappy.

Not only must you have a purpose, but you have to make that purpose the centralizing focus of your daily thoughts.

You must make your purpose your supreme duty, with your eyes always on the target. When you do that, you control the thoughts you give precedence to, and you create your mindset. And it is your mindset that determines how successful you will really be in life.

Here’s what the process looks like:

  1. Having an overriding purpose helps you direct your thoughts.
  2. Those thoughts determine your mindset.
  3. Your mindset determines how successful you will really be.

Example: Suppose you get offered a chance to participate in a business opportunity. You could approach this a number of different ways, each one would be dependent on your mindset.

You could jump in blindly, without any research, just because you are enamored with the idea of getting rich. You could enter a very bad situation and lose a lot of money. This happens to hundreds of people every day. They scan the classified ads in the back of income opportunity magazines; become fixated with the promises of riches, and throw away their life’s savings.

Or scenario two, you figure that any deal you find out about is already too late. You figure the “insiders” get all the sweetheart deals and it’s probably much too good to be true. So you passed up the chance to buy Microsoft when it was $10 a share. This scene is the more common one for most people. They question their own worth, so they have a hard time believing they will actually be successful at something.

The best scenario occurs when you get offered a situation, you have confidence in yourself, you study it thoroughly and you make a sound decision. Unfortunately, this doesn’t happen often for most people.

Your mindset colors how you view every situation you encounter every day. And it shapes the way you attract things into your life.

Some people are predisposed to think they will be wildly successful, some figure they will get by, and others expect the worst to happen. Your expectations will color how you view each situation you encounter, hundreds of times a day. That in turn will color how you act in each situation. And each one of those small, seemingly insignificant decisions determines your future.

If you think the rich get richer, and you have to have money to make money-you will probably do nothing to break out of being broke. You will think you want to be wealthy, but on a subconscious level, you will just tell yourself it would be a wasted effort.

If you think that good things only happen to “other” people, you won’t expect them to happen to you. And when they do, you won’t even recognize them, because you’re not expecting them. You won’t accept when people want to do good things for you. They may manifest as something simple, like refusing their offer to help you with a project, to something much larger, like refusing to accept love from someone who loves you.

You could pass up a great investment opportunity, decline to open a business that can make you wealthy, not protect your health, or even repel your perfect soul mate. Or all of the above.

Of course the opposite is true too . . .

If you believe you are worthy of wealth and happiness, you will expect good things to happen. And when they do, you will accept them gratefully. When you get presented with lucrative opportunities, you are likely to act on them. And when you have a chance to try something really bold, daring and monumental-you will go for it!

So this leads to a fascinating area of speculation. . .

Namely whether you believe that we manifest cancer tumors, horrible accidents happening to us, people we love dying, and other horrible things. Or more specifically, do YOU believe that YOU manifest horrible things for YOU? Or do you think that they come from circumstance, fate and luck?

This may be the single most important question you ever ask yourself.

Because it means the difference between creating your destiny-or spending a life of quiet desperation, reacting to drama, and challenges and a never-ending supply of misfortune.

Now does that mean that I think that you consciously or subconsciously wish upon yourself a tumor, or horrible accident or other tragedy?

No, not consciously anyway. But I do believe we can and do, attract bad things to us. And I believe that we shape our circumstances by the power of thought.

Now most people don’t feel that way. It’s a lot easier to believe in chance, luck, destiny, providence, and other outside factors. If we can blame things on God, nature, the universe, the economy and our horrible ex-spouse, it sure makes our misfortune more palatable, doesn’t it?

But lost in all this is the very important reality of the effect our thought-forces and mind elements have upon our circumstances, character, and destiny.

So I don’t think that you or me or anyone else would want to have a love one die, or get in a horrible tragedy. But we can believe that we are not worthy and manifest a victim pattern. Your soul attracts what it secretly harbors.

That means that which it loves, and also that which it fears!

So that means you can reach the height of your greatest aspirations, goals and dreams, or sink to the level of your unchastened desires. So that leads us to the million-dollar question for you.

Do you believe that your soul attracts what it secretly harbors? That which it loves, and also that which it fears?

How much responsibility did you accept for the last really bad things that happened to you? (As in, getting fired or laid off from your job, being in a car accident, getting sick or injured, having a sinkhole appear under your master bedroom, etc.)

The amount of responsibility you take for this greatly determines your mindset, and thus how you might subconsciously attract and manifest bad things happening in your life.

If you are like most people, you admit that you are responsible for a lot that takes place in your life. You agree that you are your thoughts, and that your thoughts create both your character and your circumstances.

But . . .

You probably would add something like, “Surely Randy you don’t think that I had anything to do with (fill in the blank.)”

Well I’m not going to tell you that you manifested getting an incurable disease, losing a loved one, going bankrupt, or any of a hundred other unspeakable calamities that may have occurred to you. And you probably wouldn’t believe me if I did.

But I know this . . .

I didn’t want to be in jail at 15, but I was there as a result of the actions I took. I didn’t want to be sick, broke and stupid, but I was, because of the thoughts I gave precedence to. I didn’t want to have my business seized by the tax authorities, but that was a direct result of my actions. And I certainly did not want to get shot, but even that was a direct result of some decisions I made, and the mindset I had at the time. I do know that when I changed my own thoughts, I changed my own life.

Even more interesting, and something to ponder today is . . .

How much responsibility did you accept for that last wonderful, glorious thing that happened in your life? (As in finding the love of your life, your child being born, getting the promotion, making a big profit on an investment, etc.)

Here’s why I ask . ..

If you think all the good things come from good luck, destiny or-dare I say this, God-you could be missing out on a lot of good things. Now before you fundamentalists assault me, let me explain . . .

In the form of a story.

A farmer was in the fields, tending his crops when a passerby struck up a conversation. He mentioned to the farmer how blessed he was that God had given him such a beautiful farm.

The farmer mentioned how he had repainted the barn and the farmhouse, and the stranger remarked again how God had blessed him.

The farmer talked about how he removed all the rocks and tree stumps to plow the fields. The stranger smiled and nodded, and remarked again how God had blessed the farmer. This went on for some time, the farmer talking with pride about the improvements he had made, and the stranger repeating how God had blessed the farmer. Finally in exasperation, the farmer exclaimed, “You should have seen the place when I took it over from God!”

There is an important prosperity lesson in that parable. If you believe in God, I’m happy for you. But don’t give away all your power and responsibility! God-or the universe, or whatever forces you believe in-can only do FOR you, what he can do THROUGH you.

While it is important to take responsibility for the bad things in your life, it is just as important, to take responsibility for the good things!

Because if you don’t take some credit for the good things-you don’t have the mindset that you can actually create more of them. Think about it. And think about the credit you deserve for what you do.

So what about YOU?

Make sure you spend some time in critical thought and really answer the questions we’ve discussed here today. Find out the real truth about what you believe your role is in the things that happen to you.

  1. Make a list of 10 beliefs you have about your destiny on earth.
  2. Write your eulogy.
  3. Imagine yourself at age 90, sitting in a rocking chair. Are there any regrets?
  4. Make a list of 100 things you hope to do in this lifetime.

Remember, you are what you think. Write out a statement declaring to the universe who you are and keep it in your pocket. If you find you’re getting a little lost along the way it’ll keep you in touch.

* Excerpted from Randy Gage’s BreakthroughU.com Monthly Lesson

For more than 15 years, Randy Gage has been helping people transform self-limiting beliefs into self-fulfilling breakthroughs to achieve their dreams. Randy Gage is a modern day explorer in the field of body-mind development and personal growth. He is the author of the best-selling albums, Dynamic Development and Prosperity and director of www.BreakthroughU.com. For more resources and to subscribe to Randy’s free ezine newsletters visit http://www.RandyGage.com