What is an ego?

Well, in case you didn’t know it, we all have one. The ego is the logical rational part of your mind that allows you to separate yourself from other people. You use it each and every day to weigh up situations, people and circumstances in the process of making important decisions. When I say "I am Sonia Devine", I am identifying with this part… MY ego.

Sometimes the Ego is associated with an inflated sense of pride or arrogance. As an example, when we talk about a person who is behaving arrogantly, people often say this person has a "huge Ego".

But it's much more than that. Your ego has a definite purpose; it is responsible for organizing the different elements of the Self to create some sense of wholeness and integration, and all of us require this to function effectively as human beings.

So what does all this information have to do with your self esteem? Well, when we focus too much on the ego, we begin to become separated from the rest of humanity, and the way we feel about ourselves becomes reliant on outside forces. So, who do you think YOU are?

Does the quality of YOUR self image rely on any of the following?

  • How much money you have
  • What you do for a living
  • Who you know
  • How you look
  • Where you live
  • What kind of car you drive

If you are defined by what you do for a living, your bank balance or your looks, then your entire self esteem is at the mercy of these external factors. All well and good when things are going your way, but if you lose your job, where does this leave you? Would you still like and respect yourself if you were flat broke or working at McDonalds?

It is within your nature go after these superficial achievements that I have mentioned…but I'll let you in on a secret; they have absolutely nothing to do with who you are! You are so much more than your physical body. Your soul is perfect just as it is, and it will continue to live on well after your body leaves the planet.


All of us are connected by collective consciousness. When you are able to see past the ego, you learn to cultivate true self-reliance. You accept yourself as the perfect being that you are AT THIS VERY MOMENT- not for who you will be once you have had your hair fixed or gotten in with the right crowd.

When you can learn to see past the ego, you experience true self love – and this comes from your higher wisdom. Your knowledge, your compassion, your strength are perfect – and these things are permanent.

Sonia Devine is a qualified professional hypnotherapist and success coach. You can find more of her information on ego, self image, love, relationships and much more on her website www.manifest-your-success.com