How often do you feel that other
people get to have something that is forbidden to you? Something that's
forbidden, not because it's impossible (like playing pro ball if you're only 5
foot 4), and not because you shouldn’t have it because it's bad for you, but
because you simply won’t permit yourself to have it.
You dream big dreams. Then you do
your research. You even get started with the project whether it's a new
business, a new relationship, a new savings account, a new diet. You're great at
the start-up phase.
But then pretty soon you "lose
interest," you "get bored" or you decide "it's not for me," "it will take too
long" or "I'm just not cut out for this."
Ahhhh, no matter the form it
takes, you are a wizard at singing your blues rendition of Forbidden Fruit.
And blue you are, depressed and
blue.
But true you are to your
conviction that the world is brimming over with delicious treats you can't have.
And you're so certain you can't have them that you won't even allow yourself to
learn how to have them. That's how stuck you are.
Please don't hide behind the
mistaken idea that you are so specially limited that you can't do anything but
suffer. That's just false praise and worship of your unconscious fear of being
fabulous.
So, what's the simple difference between you and those who live truly fabulous
lives?
Very little, except they have
developed the steadfast discipline to learn and keep going. After all, the root
of the word discipline is "disciple" – which means to be a learner.
And when you give yourself
permission to be a learner, you break out of the prison that has held you
hostage since . . . the time when you learned and believed that you couldn't
move forward, couldn't have what others have.
Liberate yourself, which you can
do, every time you can say "I don't know how, please show me," "Please help me,"
or "I'll do whatever it takes to master this."
When you sincerely open yourself
to learn, the gate opens that has kept you from that previously forbidden fruit.
You imagine and then believe you can jump over the fence, climb the ladder, and
pick the ripest, juiciest fruit you've always wanted.
And guess what? You do.
You become like every other
person who has ever made their dreams come true. You set your goal. You ask for
help. You learn, and learn, and then you learn a whole lot more . . . until . .
.
Until you are living the fabulous
life you so desire.
So, be a learner. Be
fabulous.
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About the Author: Husband and wife and best-selling
authors Judith Sherven, PhD and
Jim Sniechowski, PhD provide
tips for Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous(tm) at
http://www.fearofbeingfabulous.com
