Relationships of all kinds are often perceived as very delicate things, that require
extra effort to maintain. However, a relationship can also be something that can
provide security and can also be long lasting despite many trials.

Building an effective and lasting relationships is a necessity for several reasons.
For example in a group or organization, the well being of the people depends on how
efficient and effective that group or organization works.
The group or organization is also dependent on how the members work well with the

An ineffective group or organization can really be very frustrating. An effective
group or organization can also ask so much on their members, that sometimes the
members would be having no life outside the walls of the area where they work or
sacrifice the other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines. For an organization
or group with this kind of scenario, relationships can be stressed or suffer from

People or other entities who depend on these groups or organization also suffer.
Society is defined as a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work and
contribute their share in order to achieve a common goal. Having a relationship that
is good, where cooperation and respect are manifested, can make society work better.
In this way each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common
goal. This can only be attained with effective and efficient relationships.

Understanding the other parties’ feeling and position creates an effective and
efficient relationship. The easiest method to understand what is important to another
party is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say. When the
other party realizes this, they would feel the importance given to them
Effective and efficient relationships require parties to openly express their feelings
and positions on all matters pertinent on the relationship. Assuming that the other
party understands our needs and give us when we need it without asking for it is not a
good practice.

Respect is the key to relationship. In order to create a more effective relationship,
parties should treat each other with respect. We can show respect just by listening
to the other party and by trying sincerely to understand how they function. You can
also show respect to other parties by confirming that they are doing everything they

The opposite of respect is quick forming of judgements based on unfounded facts and

Respect is the very foundation for a great relationship. This also means respecting
yourself and respecting others.

Another key area in forming an effective relationship is to tackle differences of the
other party directly. Differences between parties or people are quite interesting. For
example in a conversation where each party listens to the other party, you may observe
that each is having two different perspectives.
Work towards a win-win solution for both parties.
This can be done when at least one party acknowledges that the relationship is
important. That party would then exert more time, effort and energy to understand the
other party’s needs and deal with it to get it out of the way. Should they fail, it is
comforting for that party to know that they tried.
Effectively listening and no pre-judging. This is important if parties are to
understand each other.

Informal discussions are conducive for parties. They bring out issues and concerns
comfortably. They also feel more relaxed making them think more clearly.
Developing an atmosphere where the other party can express their feelings when they
need to.

When parties fail to express whatever is on their mind or their feelings, it can get
in the way of building an effective relationship.
Parties should be aware that certain things exist naturally but should be controlled
in any dealings in any relationship. Human nature is one. Some of these things found
in a relationship also include a history of stereotyping or mistrust, blaming the
other person or party for a strained relationship, excluding the other party’s
feelings when focusing on a task, no clear and defined objectives, roles and
expectations of each party in a relationship is also unclear.

Relationships are important to anyone, addressing issues and problems right away is a
must to further improve the relationship. As they say ‘No man is an Island’.

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